“It seems to me that the less I fight my fear, the less it fights back. If I can relax, fear relaxes, too.”– Elizabeth Gilbert
I'm getting into this idea that, if we can just chill a little bit with our less-desirable feelings and accept their presence, they are then able to chill, too. Especially if they live in the realm of fear and anxiety, which is all about protecting us. If you fight back against something that's trying to protect you, of course it's going to keep freaking out. You're not listening! As far as it can tell, a giant freight truck with cut brakes is about to smash into you! If you're not going to run you should at least panic!!!
But if you let it exist and maybe even make it feel heard, then I don't know, maybe it will relax, knowing it's done its job.
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