“Life will present you with unexpected opportunities, and you won't always know in advance which are the important moments. Above all, it's the quality of your relationships that will determine the quality of your life. Invest in your connections, even those that seem inconsequential.”-Esther Perel
This has been my approach to life for a very long time. When asked what gives my life meaning, I would almost always answer my friends, my relationships, my community.
On one hand, it's totally true and I have some very meaningful relationships which one could say means I have a very meaningful life. (I would say so as well!)
On the other hand, it also led me to holding onto more relationships that a person can effectively maintain with any meaning. At some point, I had to actually decide which friendships I was really going to invest in, which may have involved some gut-wrenching priority-setting.
Also, on that other hand, I have often chosen friendship over pursuing work, which is usually the right decision, but perhaps not the right decision every single time.
Still, Mr. Perel's wisdom is where it's at.
Or, as Leslie Knope says, "We have to remember what's important in life: friends, waffles, work."
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