Saturday, May 27, 2017

Singalong! Most Girls by Hailee Steinfeld

This song has spent the past week making the rounds on the feminist web, and for good reason! I, like "most girls", and sick of this idea that you're better/cooler/smarter if you're not like most girls. It was only a matter of time before some girl wrote our anthem. Go, Hailee, go!


MOST GIRLS
by Hailee Steinfeld

Some girls feel best in their tiny dresses
Some girls in nothin' but sweatpants, looking like a princess
Some girls kiss new lips every single night
They're stayin' out late cause they just celebrating life

You know some days you feel so good in your own skin
But it's okay if you wanna change the body that you came in
Cause you look greatest when you feel like a damn queen
We're all just playing a game in a way, tryna win that life

Most girls are smart and strong and beautiful
Most girls work hard, go far, we are unstoppable
Most girls, our fight to make every day
No two are the same

I wanna be like, I wanna be like most girls
I wanna be like, I wanna be like most girls
I wanna be like, I wanna be like
I wanna be like, I wanna be like
I wanna be like, I wanna be like

Some girls like to keep their physique real private
Some girls wear jeans so tight 'cause it feels so right, yeah
Some girls, every day searching, keep the page turning
Sleepin' in late cause they're just celebrating life

You know some days you feel so good in your own skin
But it's okay if you wanna change the body that you came in
Cause you look greatest when you feel like a damn queen
We're all just playing a game in a way trying to win that life

Most girls are smart and strong and beautiful
Most girls work hard, go far, we are unstoppable
Most girls, our fight to make every day
No two are the same

I wanna be like, I wanna be like most girls
I wanna be like, I wanna be like most girls
I wanna be like, I wanna be like
I wanna be like, I wanna be like
I wanna be like, I wanna be like

Most girls, yeah
Most girls
Wanna be, wanna be, wanna be
Most girls, our fight to make every day
No two are the same

I wanna be like most girls
I wanna be like, I wanna be like most girls
I wanna be like, I wanna be like
I wanna be like, I wanna be like
I wanna be like

Photo by Xopunkguyxo


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Friday, May 26, 2017

Learning! Roundup: Think like a baby, ethics and electronics, fallopian tube flushes, and cocky scientists


To Stay Young, Think Like a Baby

You know how babies are curious about everything, sticking everything in their mouths, figuring out how their bodies work and what the world is and how to be humans? Well, it turns out that copying this broad learning style as an adult can help prevent cognitive decline.

Ethics and Electronics

People love to talk about how Facebook is destroying our souls. While the jury is still deliberating on that (although it doesn't look good), it looks like technology does impact our morals. When we have to make complex moral decisions using a smartphone, we are more likely to be utilitarian in our choice than over a computer.

(Pssst! When it comes to Facebook itself, the research is conflicting and seems to indicate that its impact on our mental well being can be either positive or negative, depending on how we use it.)

Poppy Seed Fallopian Tube Flushes

This seems along the lines of vaginal steaming or coffee enemas, but apparently there is some evidence that flushing your fallopian tubes with poppy seed oil can boost your chances of getting pregnant, should you want to.

Why Some Kids Get Rejected

It seems like a totally cruel and arbitrary mystery to me why some kids get singled out for bullying. So often it's just senseless. There is nothing "wrong" with the kid, they just, for some reason, get chosen. Well, researchers have been trying to figure it out for a while and have picked up on one common trait: the rejecters perceive the rejectee to somehow threaten their group's status or stability. It still seems a bit arbitrary, but perhaps it's a start in figuring it out.

More Cocky Scientists

This doesn't really come as a surprise: scientists think they are more rational than other people. (Spoiler alert: they aren't - not necessarily, anyways.)




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Thursday, May 25, 2017

This Week in Church: Community, waiting, and mission

Welcome to the series wherein I share my take-aways from church. The things that, I think, are beneficial to all of us to know or think about, whether or not we believe in any church-related things.


This week in church, we talked about the stages of community.

According to some psychologist whose name I did not write down and who I cannot find online*, there are four stages of community development: excitement, disillusionment, adjustment, and health. Most people bail on a community during disillusionment, but if you ride it out you can get to something awesome.

It occurs to me that these stages also apply to our relationships, and that there's probably more of an ongoing loop that occurs in healthy relationships and communities. Perhaps not all the way back to disillusionment, but a sub-category, like frustration or disappointment.

The pastors in our church encourage us to stick around through one major disappointment and see where it goes from there. While my cynical side just says, "yeah, of course they don't want us to bail, they need members", it's also cool to see church leadership recognize that we will be very disappointed by them at some point.

This week in church, we talked about waiting expectantly.

I am really really really bad at waiting. Unless I have a very clear sense of why I'm waiting and how long it will be and an ability to monitor the time passing, I get so incredibly impatient very quickly. Waiting for something that is uncertain? I might as well die. (And not be melodramatic at all.)

The Bible is full of people waiting. Noah waiting for his boat to hit land. The Israelites waiting to be rescued from Egypt. The Israelites waiting to be let out of the desert. The Israelites waiting to be saved from Rome. The Israelites pretty much were forced to wait a lot.

(Either humans were far more patient and understanding back then, or those Israelites were really annoyed a LOT. They also must have really nailed the whole "sticking with something through disillusionment" thing.)

I've been working on trying to enjoy the process of things instead of just urging on the outcome. Since so much life passes in the waiting, why wouldn't I want to appreciate the time I've got?

With all that uncertain waiting in the Bible, the pastor talked about waiting expectantly. Waiting, knowing that something will come at the end. Waiting with trust and hope.

It seems that might take the edge off.

This week in church, we talked about our mission.

Our mission is to love people.

*I did find this paper, crediting anthropologist Kalervo Oberg with these concepts with regards to cultural adjustment. This name doesn't ring a bell, so maybe someone else applied Oberg's concepts to community? 


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Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Inspiration! Roundup: Photographing race and power, the belle epoque, getting hired to each cake, and more!

This week's "I want to go to there":
I'm there! In Charlottetown, PEI!

Race and Power 

This photo series dramatically depicts the relationship between race and power in women. Striking!

The End of the Belle Epoque

This series of colour photos of Paris in 1914 is stunning.

The Art of Olaf Hajek

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Work

Almost no one gets hired to eat a slice of chocolate cake.
-Seth Godin

It's been a while since I quoted Seth Godin, but this entire post is fantastic. Also, it's the first time I've heard a man recognize and write about emotional labour, which was a wonderful surprise.

Turning an Error into Fun

You know the Error 404 page? It's always a bit of a bummer, but if you're visiting certain websites, you'll find some pretty fun, artful, or hilarious pages to soften the blow of landing on a webpage that doesn't exist. Check out a collection of laudable museum error pages at Hyperallergic.



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Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Was TV in the 90's more feminist than it is today?

I was somehow raised in a golden-era of feminist television
Photo by Paul Townsend

I think I may have passed my formative years in an oddly-feminist alternate reality of television.

Despite my parents' best efforts, I watched a lot of TV growing up. Once we got old enough to stay at home supervision-free, I pretty much spent my summer days jamming out with my Geocities Titanic/Kate Winslet fan site, Kraft Dinner, and lots and lots of television.

This is going to be a bit of a time-meld, because picking apart the memories of which shows I watched at which ages is going to be way too hard, but here is what my smooshed-together memory of "TV for Young Andrea" looks like:

Talk shows! Maury Povich, Jenny Jones, Ricki Lake, Oprah, and the Rosie O'Donnell Show!

Reruns! Mary Tyler Moore, Rhoda, Golden Girls, That Girl, and Designing Women!

New shows! Family Matters, Fresh Prince, Murphy Brown, Moesha, Sister Sister, X Files, Sabrina the Teenage Witch, Breaker High, Blossom, Seinfeld, and ER!

Yes, this line up is almost entirely devoid of intersectionality. Yes, the talk shows were largely trash. Yes, the teen-geared shows were silly. Yes, there were still lots of problematic tropes of women as victims or emotional wrecks or desperate for male attention. And YES! Out of 21 shows, FOURTEEN are either named after women or have a female pronoun in the title. Several of the remaining shows have gender-balanced lead casts.

I grew up awash in stories about women of all ages working hard, living life, and having fun. I didn't have to try to look for them, they were just there! Everywhere! Want a show about old(ish) women living together and supporting each other? You got it! Want a show about women living on their own and working cool jobs? There's more than one! Want shows about teenage girls trying to figure out who they are? Here are several! Don't worry about it, they're just on TV with everything else as if they are perfectly normal things to watch and not special programming to make women happy.

How did this bizarre intersection of women come into my television? I somehow got caught in the crosshairs of older shows, played on constant loop on the "older classics" TV station, alongside new shows about women ranging from Murphy Brown to Sabrina the Teenage Witch.

It didn't occur to me to select for shows that featured cool women who were more than props. They were just the shows that were on TV. It seems like they were the ONLY shows that were on TV!

No wonder I grew up to be a feminist killjoy.

"Haven't you seen three vibrant, healthy, sexually-active women before?"


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Monday, May 22, 2017

Cute! Roundup: Problem solving dogs, a posse of opossums, and more!

Here's another photo of Gertie being a curious little champ at the vet. Because when they leave you alone in the room with your cat for 10 minutes, there's nothing to do but take a thousand pictures of her.


OTHER CUTENESS:

This bulldog has some sweet problem solving skills.

In case you didn't think a cow sticking his tongue out would be cute.

Mumma and bubba koala!

A posse of opossums!


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Saturday, May 20, 2017

Singalong! Shine by Collective Soul

When this song was new on the radio, I was still living in my fairly sheltered Christian music bubble. If you're unaware, imagery of inner lights shining is big in the Christian music bubble, so I naturally was impressed that this clearly Christian song made its way onto the secular airwaves. I asked my sister if Collective Soul were Christians and she said "definitely not."

I have to say, though, looking at the song now, I still think it could fit in perfectly to the Christian music-o-sphere, if the slightly more "open-minded, appealing to secular kids by being indirect about God" corner of the market.


SHINE
by Collective Soul

Give me a word
Give me a sign
Show me where to look
Tell me what will I find
Lay me on the ground
Fly me in the sky
Show me where to look
Tell me what will I find
Oh, heaven let your light shine down

Love is in the water
Love is in the air
Show me where to look
Tell me will love be there
Teach me how to speak
Teach me how to share
Teach me where to go
Tell me will love be there
Oh, heaven let your light shine down

Give me a word
Give me a sign
Show me where to look
Tell me what will I find
Lay me on the ground
Fly me in the sky
Show me where to look
Tell me what will I find
Oh, heaven let your light shine down

I'm gonna let it shine
I'm gonna let it shine
Heaven send a light, let it shine on me

Hey yeah
Hey yeah
Heaven send a light, let it shine on me

It's gonna shine on
Shine on me
Its gonna shine on
Well come on and shine

Photo by Ankered182



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