Feeling Insecure About Feeling Better

Even the writer's of self-help books need some self help once in a while.
Photo by Sabrina Miso.

This week is the launch party for my book, Feeling Better: A Field Guide to Liking Yourself.

Whenever people ask me how I feel about it, I don't quite know what to say. Generally, it oscillates between being completely surreal and more of a project/to-do list than a thing I get to just reflect on and be excited about (although those moments do happen - like when I got to unbox my first copy of the book).

Here is one thing I have had trouble articulating so far: how counterintuitively insecure publishing a book about learning to like yourself can make you feel. If there was ever a time I needed to read a book like Feeling Better, it's while publishing the book Feeling Better.

At times, feeling like this has made me wonder if I am a fraud. If I shouldn't have even published the book. If I should send everyone their money back and say, "sorry, folks! This was a big, dumb, experiment and it turns out that I am insecure, too, so you shouldn't read my advice!"

Of course, I don't think that's actually true. The "better" in the title Feeling Better is not meant to mean that I am all better. It's not saying, "things are better now, it's done! Mental health and perfect self-love achieved!" It's more of an incremental "better: it's improvement, or being better than I was before. It's a journey of continually feeling better.

Plus, expecting a person who wrote a self-help book to never, ever struggle with their self-image seems a little unrealistic.

So instead, I am sharing with you this truth: even the writer of the book Feeling Better: A Field Guide to Liking Yourself needs some help feeling better about herself once in a while.

We're all in this together, my friends.


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