Learning! Roundup: Fix your body image, gender-neutral preschools, smart phones make us dumb (actually), and more!

Learning! Roundup: A collection of research and interesting facts, including the fact that exercising for just 30 minutes can make you feel stronger, thinner, and overall better about yourself. Also, gender-neutral preschools, gendered medical research, and cigarette butts in birds nests.
Photo credit: daverose259 via Foter.com / CC BY

Fix Your Body (Image) in Just 30 Minutes!

New research shows that exercising for just 30 minutes can make you feel stronger, thinner, and overall better about yourself.  I mean, I've known this for a while, that's why I made my special fitspiration memes.

Gender-Neutral Preschool

Sweden, always ahead of the game, has some gender-neutral preschools. This is not achieved by dressing everyone in matching sackcloth, but by making sure that toys are not segregated by gender, that posters depict a combination of gender norms (like a robot in a tutu), and instructors talk more about humans, kids, adults, and friends than boys and girls. And, guess what? It's working! Kids who attend these gender-neutral preschools have better outcomes than those who don't.

Smart Phones Still Make Us Dumber

Turns out that our smart phones are not only distracting, but our cognitive capacity significantly reduces when we have one around. Even when it's off. Lame.

Birds Use Cigarette Butts to Protect from Ticks

Looks like there is ONE good thing about cigarettes: birds can weave the fibres from cigarette butts into their nests to protect from ticks.

The Male Default Strikes Women Again!

You know how everything in life defaults to being male unless there's a reason to make it female? Well, that holds for research on animals: they generally use male mice. The result is that women may be getting worse medical treatments. Thanks, guys!

Uncertainty

Everyone is a little bit bad at uncertainty, but some people are REALLY bad at it. Now we know that there may be a biological reason for this: they may have enlarged striatum, the part of the brain that tracks how reliable a reward will be.

More Parenting Advice

Because that's what you need, right? Well, research shows that when you correct your child's bad behaviour, you should point out the impact of their behaviour on others. It helps teach empathy, which is kind of key to our humanity, so I guess that's a good thing.


The Receptionist Delivers!
Sign up for my email newsletter for a weekly digest and BONUS CONTENT!

How our cognitive biases are ruining everything, and how we could use them to trick ourselves into saving the world

I have a theory about systemic biases in the world and a way we can take a big step in combating them. A lot of people aren't going to like it, because it's basically tokenism on fire, but I think it could actually help.

I believe that we could take huge leaps in removing systemic barriers, overturning the patriarchy, and dismantling white supremacy by artificially boosting the numbers of women, people of colour, people with disabilities, queer, trans, overweight, and whatever else you can think of, people in our TV shows, movies, video games, books, stock photography used for advertising, and other entertainment.

Let every writer or ad exec come up with a novel, screenplay, or ad campaign that looks however they want, and then send someone else in to change characters named Ryan to Ming-Na, and so on. I theorize that in 5-10 years we would make significant gains in the rest of society for equality.

Why?

Because it would use our brains' cognitive biases for good by changing our implicit biases.

Cognitive Biases are ruining everything, but we could hack them in order to make the world a better place

If you don't know about cognitive biases, here's a little psych 101:

Our brains encounter a LOT of information every single day and have to make a ridiculous number of decisions. If we had to consciously sort through it all, we'd never do anything. To free up space for us to stare at budget spreadsheets and groan (or do more enjoyable things), our brains take a looooot of shortcuts. Some of these shortcuts are summarized as cognitive biases.

Here are a few of the common cognitive biases that exist in every single human brain:

The Availability Heuristic: The easier it is to recall information, the more likely we are to think it's true. If something springs to mind right away, we assume it's correct.

The Familiarity Heuristic: The more familiar something is, the more we like it. Also called the "mere exposure effect", because merely being exposed to something makes us like it more.

Bandwagon Effect: We are more likely to adopt a belief if other people around us hold that belief.

Confirmation Bias: We pay more attention to information that confirms beliefs we already hold.

Implicit Bias: This is more socially-constructed than cognitive in origin, and is (in my opinion) the resulting impact of all the other biases rolled up in one. Implicit biases are the attitudes or stereotypes we hold about a group of people without being aware of them, that often go against our stated beliefs. For example, people who think they aren't racist who subconsciously view black people as dumb, dangerous, and bad. Fun fact: since implicit bias comes at us subconsciously from all aspects of society around us, it can help people hold negative views about their own group.

(Side note: if you think you're exempt from these biases, there's a name for that, too: Blind Spot Bias. This is when you see biases in others but not in yourself. These are all scientifically tested and confirmed as things that human brains do.)

Implicit bias affects us all.

The researchers who discovered implicit bias did it through a test that revealed anti-black and pro-white associations (black being associated with danger and badness, white with safety and goodness). They would take the test every day to observe if there were any changes, even consciously trying to change their test scores. Only once did one of them succeed: that morning he had watched a speech by Martin Luther King Jr. on television. He came in to work, took the test, and the implicit bias had disappeared*.

They realized that being exposed to positive examples of black people that were salient, recent, and easy to remember, changed the bias.

Do you see where I'm going with this?

Right now, there's a cycle going on. Our mass entertainment (the stuff that's meant to appeal to everyone) centres around one kind of person: white, male, heterosexual, able-bodied, fit, etc. The vast majority of advertising and entertainment confirms the story that white people and their experiences are normal, that male stories are universal, and so on. So then what is going to be more familiar? What will be easier to recall? What will our sense of the "bandwagon" of beliefs surrounding us be? What implicit biases will come out of this?

With some notable exceptions, there is a clear picture of what is "mainstream" and what is "special interest" in our society right now, and that matters to our brains.

We could start a new cycle.

What if names like Abdullah and Satoshi were just as common on television as Adam and Jennifer? What if ads for dish soap featured just as many men expertly doing the dishes as women? What if exciting video games were played from the perspectives of people with disabilities? What if the doctors, lawyers, cleaning people, magazine editors, terrorists, romantic leads, superheroes, singers, and news anchors that we saw represented in our entertainment and advertising were a genuine mix of race, cultural background, religion, gender, sexuality, ability, and body type?

What if all of that was mainstream?

How would this impact our cognitive biases? How would that impact our real-world behaviour?

Would resumes with "ethnic"-sounding names still get fewer job interviews if we could all easily recall examples of capable people from those ethnicities? Would men still feel outnumbered when 33% of the people around them were female if the culture surrounding them made it clear that a 50/50 ratio was normal? Would police still have such a strong fear-response to black people that they shoot black boys whose hands are in the air if they were more familiar with images of safe and friendly black people? Would people be so angry at the idea of a trans woman in a washroom if they had easily available examples of actual transgender people in their minds?

Inserting diversity into our entertainment would not solve all our problems. Not by a long shot. But would it help us as we do the harder work? Can we hack our cognitive biases to help push us towards confronting systemic barriers in the workplace or biases that are leading directly to violence?

I think it would. At the very least, I think it's a) possible and b) technically an easy thing to test.

Now all we have to do is convince every gatekeeper to entertainment media to get on board with the experiment. Easy, right?

So, that's my theory! Ready? Poke holes in it. Tell me what's missing. Let's make it better - or throw it out if needed.

*This is a story I remember discussing in at least two psychology classes, but I now can't find any evidence of it. I presume it was in some of my intro psych textbooks, but those aren't available online to confirm. So I guess take it with a grain of salt.


The Receptionist Delivers!
Sign up for my email newsletter for a weekly digest and BONUS CONTENT!
SaveSaveSaveSave

Inspiration! Roundup: Elongated women, finishing things, gender variance through time, and dancers vs. Trump quotes

This week's roundup of inspiration includes Seth Godin's advice, dancers vs. trump quotes, gender variance through time, and J.K. Rowling
This week's "I want to go to there":
Doesn't this look like the coziest cuddle puddle?
Photo credit: Victoria Belanger via Foter.com / CC BY-ND

Make Two Lists

Make two lists: one of all the stuff that gets in your way, the people that drag you down, the difficulties, and one of the benefits, helpers, and resources in your life. Now you get to tuck one away in a drawer somewhere to look at once a year, and tape one to the bathroom mirror. Which do you choose to look at every day?

(This is from a Seth Godin blog post, read his whole thing. It's beautiful.)

Johanna Goodman's Elongated Women

Check out the beautiful, evocative elongated women created by Johanna Goodman.


Finish Something

“The discipline involved in finishing a piece of creative work is something on which you can truly pride yourself.”
– J.K. Rowling

Gender Variance Through Time

As Teen Vogue continues to show itself to be an awesome source of smart thinking, their new series OG History, centering history through a non-white, non-cispatriarchal lens, is the BOMB! Check out this excellent article about gender variance through history, and how it has existed for thousands of years.

Dancers vs. Trump Quotes

A group of dancers interpreted Trump's quotes.




The Receptionist Delivers!
Sign up for my email newsletter for a weekly digest and BONUS CONTENT!

More proof that marketing works, and we have stupid psychology to blame.

We are in a kind of golden age for marketers. Thanks to the internet, you can pick a target market and reach them again and again and again with your message.

So, that can be annoying. But does it really work?

Ohhhhhh yes.

Case in Point: Leaf by Bellabeat. It's a health tracker for women, and I see ads for it CONSTANTLY.

Screenshot of the Leaf ad that stalks me

The first time I saw the ad, I thought, "oh that's kind of cute, but I have no need for it." I know some people are really into monitoring their activity and sleep and everything else, but I kind of don't care that much.

That's fine! I saw the ad, said, "thanks, but no thanks," and then moved on with my life.

Except then I kept seeing the ad. Over and over and over. With all those beautiful photos of the cool-looking health tracker, the Leaf started to look more attractive to me.

More than once, I have clicked through to the website and browsed the various product designs. Why? For nothing. For no good reason except that repeated exposure to the product made me like it more. It's stupid psychology all over again: the more familiar something is, the more we like it, and with the cheapness of online marketing things can become reallllllly familiar.

Last night I did it again. I saw an ad for Leaf and almost freaking bought one! I only just barely stopped myself in two ways: 1) I just bought boots online that I was ridiculously excited about that turned out to totally disappoint me, so I'm a bit gun shy for online purchasing of wearables, and 2) I forced myself to look through the features of the tracker and reminded myself that I will do NOTHING with the information it provides.

So be on your guard! When that product you previously didn't care about starts catching your eye after your millionth ad impression, be wary! Ask yourself WHY and save yourself!

(Also, I have JUST remembered that you can block specific ads on FB pretty easily, so there's also that line of defence. Employ it with me!!!!)

PS: I have nothing against Leaf as a product. If you're into health trackers, great! Go forth and track. I also don't need Thinx period panties thanks to my sweet IUD, but I see those ads constantly and keep almost buying them too. BLOCK!

PPS: I wrote this post a few days ago. Since then I have not seen ads for Leaf or Thinx and thus have almost bought them ZERO times! Blocking ads works! Life hack! And bonus, now they are only spending their marketing funds showing the ad to people who mighta actually want their product.


The Receptionist Delivers!
Sign up for my email newsletter for a weekly digest and BONUS CONTENT!

FOUND: Paradise planet!

We've found the utopia that could save our future! What are the chances?

There is a planet with the exact conditions necessary to support human life! It is the right size to create the exact level of gravity needed to hold onto an atmosphere, and it appears to be a nice distance from its sun. This planet features plentiful water, farmable land, and a number of different climates for people to live in. There is even a rich animal and plant life already present!

It has been called "paradise" and "heaven" to those who have seen it.

Here's the thing: its life-friendly climate is shifting. In 50 years, there will be significantly less arable land and the air quality may require masks. In 100 years the entire climate of the planet will have shifted in a major way and it may be much more difficult to sustain life.

We can change it, of course. We could go there, make some changes, and this planet could support us indefinitely. Indefinitely! Are you in?

OH WAIT.

The planet is earth. We are such a bunch of dummies we would rather leave our paradise behind and colonize a new planet than put some effort into changing our ways. THIS PLANET is an amazing gift that could support human life indefinitely if we stopped being so ridiculous, for pete's sake!

We found a paradise planet that could support human life indefinitely! We just need to avoid destroying it...
Photo credit: NASA Goddard Photo and Video via Foter.com / CC BY
“You have to really kind of think about our own existence here in the universe. You realize that people often say, ‘I hope to go to heaven when I die.' In reality, if you think about it, you go to heaven when you’re born.”
-Jim Lovell, Astronaut on Apollo 8 and 13


The Receptionist Delivers!
Sign up for my email newsletter for a weekly digest and BONUS CONTENT!
SaveSave

Cute! Roundup: A clingy koala, cat on a kayak, baby wild boar, and more!

Sometimes (all the time) I think, "huh, Gertie really knows how to live life well."


OTHER CUTENESS:

A clingy koala.

Who doesn't love to see unlikely sleeping companions?

It's a cat on a kayak????

Is this tiny kitten extremely smooth or the clumsiest of all?

Have you ever even seen a baby wild boar?

It's a PIG in a POLICE UNIFORM! So regal looking.


The Receptionist Delivers!
Sign up for my email newsletter for a weekly digest and BONUS CONTENT!

Singalong! Maps by Yeah Yeah Yeahs

For some reason I used to think that in this song Karen O just repeated "maaaaaps" over and and over again with no other lyrics. That's silly. There are plenty of other lyrics. A whole song's worth. Here, sing them with me! And oof, what lyrics! "My kind's your kind, I'll stay the same." Murder my heart, why don't you?


MAPS
by Yeah Yeah Yeahs

Pack up
I'm strayed
Enough

Oh say say say
Oh say say say
Oh say say say
Oh say say say
Oh say say say

Wait, they don't love you like I love you
Wait, they don't love you like I love you
Maps
Wait, they don't love you like I love you

Made off
Don't stray
My kind's your kind
I'll stay the same
Pack up
Don't stray
Oh say say say
Oh say say say

Wait, they don't love you like I love you
Wait, they don't love you like I love you
Maps
Wait, they don't love you like I love you

Wait, they don't love you like I love you
Maps
Wait, they don't love you like I love you

Wait, they don't love you like I love you
Wait, they don't love you like I love you
Maps
Wait, they don't love you like I love you

Wait, they don't love you like I love you
Maps
Wait, they don't love you like I love you

Singalong with the lyrics to Maps by the Yeah Yeah Yeahs
Photo by Razor9Fangdog



The Receptionist Delivers!
Sign up for my email newsletter for a weekly digest and BONUS CONTENT!

Learning! Roundup: Save your marriage with cute animals, pow wow season, emotional labour, VR and racial bias, and Parkinson's research!

Learning roundup! How to be an ally during pow wow season, emotional labour comics, and more
Photo credit: Jon Damon via Foter.com / CC BY

Marital Satisfaction and Adorable Animals

Save your marriage by looking at cute animals! It's true: science said so. Okay, it's a little more complex than that. Basically, they created Pavlovian responses by pairing pictures of adorable animals with pictures or peoples' spouses, causing them to associate the warm-fuzzies from looking at the animals with their spouses.

How to be an Ally During Pow Wow Season

In much of Canada, it's pow wow season. Here's a great article from the CBC about how to be an ally and appreciate the festivities during this time. It's almost ridiculous, because basically it boils down to respecting it as a religious ceremony and listening to what you are told to do at the event. Shouldn't be rocket science (we all have a pretty basic sense of how to be respectful in church, right? We wouldn't run around, take pictures, and yell commentary during an Easter service?)

You Should've Asked - Understanding Emotional Labour

Sometimes I read about emotional labour and then I feel all sorts of frustrations. If you don't know or understand what this is, here is a great comic that sums up one element of emotional labour: the work that's done to manage a household.

VR Studies of Racial Bias

Researchers are using virtual reality to better understand our racial biases. In this study, they had white participants wear full body-tracking VR suits and assigned them a VR avatar that was either black and white to see how they interacted with another VR person (also black or white). They found that, while people always mimicked the body posture of their VR "buddy", they did it more when they were matched on race.

Parkinson's

There is new evidence that Parkinson's may be an autoimmune disorder, which will help big-time with finding cures!


The Receptionist Delivers!
Sign up for my email newsletter for a weekly digest and BONUS CONTENT!

Antidepressants, 6 months in: FAQ


About 6 months ago I tried something new. I started taking antidepressants.

So, half a year in, how is it going?

Honestly, it's been awesome. It's also something people really seem to want to know about. Here's my Antidepressant FAQ:

Do they work? What is the difference?

For me, definitely. They don't work for everyone, and some people have to do a lot of back and forth to find a good dose, but it was a huge, positive change for me.

The change that I noticed is that I suddenly felt like myself again. In this case, that meant feeling like I once again had the energy and mental capacity to deal with life and my problems. I wasn't being held back by an energy-sucking slime monster anymore, I could just be myself and face the world.

At first, of course, it was a hugely noticeable change. I had the stark contrast of before and after fresh in my mind. After a few months, my new normal became normal, and it's no longer special. I just continue to feel like Regular Andrea Living Life.

What about side effects?

I had a weird couple days after I first started where my head felt kind of buzzy and I would have sudden dizzy spells, and luckily those were the only negative side effects I felt. Otherwise, I didn't get the weight gain that often comes along with the pills, and while it's possible that my sex drive was affected, being constantly anxious wasn't really great for the ol' libido either, so that seemed even-steven.

Don't they flatten out your emotions?

In terms of experiencing all the feelings of life, I would say the there has been a bit of a change. I still feel high highs and low lows, but I have noticed that I don't cry nearly as easily as I used to. Don't get me wrong, I still cry enough that I can do a #whyisandreacryingthistime series on Instagram and fill it out pretty well, but EVERYTHING doesn't make me cry anymore.

I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing, to be honest. My sensitivity and empathy are a deeply-engrained part of who I am, and while they are definitely still there, am I losing something by dulling them, even a tiny bit? I mean, I still care about people and things. I still have all the feelings. I also still feel like myself. I don't feel like anything is holding me back or getting in the way of my experience of life.

Will you be on them forever?

That's not the plan for me. Because my depression and anxiety were triggered by life events and stress, the plan was to take the pills for a year and then go off of them in whatever slow, drawn-out process that entails.

In the meantime, I've been working on my life boundaries and priorities. This is brutally hard. The reason I had to go on antidepressants in the first place is because I let everything into my life, carried all the responsibility in my head, and all the feelings in my heart. It was too much, and trying to change that really IS changing something about myself, even more so than with the medication.

I'll write another post soon on the techniques I've been using to try to create better boundaries in my life. It's all still in that weird fluxy place of experimentation, so we'll see what happens.

Do you think I should go on antidepressants?

Well that's just impossible to answer. Everyone's circumstances are different, and everyone certainly doesn't share my precise body chemistry that reacted to the pills in this way. You also just may not need them.

If you think you might, though, then you should talk to a counsellor and a doctor about it.



The Receptionist Delivers!
Sign up for my email newsletter for a weekly digest and BONUS CONTENT!

Inspiration! Roundup: Creativity, inviting the devil to tea, options, twins turn 100, and the most stunning paper cut art of all time!

Want to make some art with me? This week's inspiration! roundup includes a lovely art comic, inviting the devil for tea, and more!
This Week's "I want to go to there": Let's paint!
Photo credit: Foter.com

Creativity Starts Small

A great little comic on the process of creativity from Hyperallergic:


Invite the Devil to Tea

Listen, I'm not saying we should all drink tea with the devil. That's crazy. No, I'm just saying that it must be nice, when you're used to being summoned to be used for evil, to get summoned for tea instead.

Options
Smile baby.
You’re alive.
You’ve got options.
– Sonya Teclai
100th Birthday

Should this be posted in a cuteness roundup? I'm not sure, but I think it's more inspirational than adorable: twin sisters celebrating their 100th anniversary had the best photoshoot to mark the occasion! I am inspired to celebrate life, to continue my efforts to age well, and to embrace the fun in life.

Paper Cutting

The intricacy and skill in Pippa Dyrlaga's paper cutting art is incredible. Incredible!



The Receptionist Delivers!
Sign up for my email newsletter for a weekly digest and BONUS CONTENT!

Awesome Award: Marley Dias

The Awesome Award is administered haphazardly to people who are doing truly awesome things. This Awesome Award is going to 12-year-old activist Marley Dias.

Awesome Award: Marley Dias is a 12-year-old who began 1000 Black Girl Books

Name: Marley Dias

Occupation: Activist

Award Title: For Seeing a Problem and Taking Positive Action to Fix It

Marley Dias noticed that there weren't very many books in her school library about black girls. She wanted to change that, so she started a drive to find more books about black girls.

I love reading and I love reading all kinds of books. I think it is important that if we want the world to be a better place where everyone feels welcomed and understood then we must sure that children have books about black girls, and all kinds of people, not just white boys and dogs.
-Marley Dias

Her resource guide includes 1,000 books, and can be filtered by age/reading level. Yes, there are even suggestions for adults, which will make their way into my reading list.

Listen, I'm not all about to say that it's only impressive because she's young. It IS impressive for a 12-year-old to do this, but there are a lot of youthful activists. Ms. Dias not only took action, but she took positive action: she decided to compile a resource guide and collection of books to help change things. She is highlighting what she wants to see in the world and she's doing an awesome job at it.

CHECK OUT 1000 BLACK GIRL BOOKS!


The Receptionist Delivers!
Sign up for my email newsletter for a weekly digest and BONUS CONTENT!

Cute! Roundup: Cat personal space, cheetah support puppies, raccoon buddies, and more!

This is Commodore. Commodore is beautiful and affectionate and has a wonderful unimpressed face.


OTHER CUTENESS:

What it's like to have your personal space invaded by a cat.

Ummmmmmm, I don't know how to prepare you for this cuteness: cheetahs are nervous animals, so zoos give them support puppies to calm them!

What is this name of this adorable, giant-eared animal?

A raccoon gets a friend.

The lazy dog's fetch.

The world's smallest deer.


The Receptionist Delivers!
Sign up for my email newsletter for a weekly digest and BONUS CONTENT!

Singalong! Universal Soldier by Buffy Sainte-Marie

Today is Canada Day and it's the 150th anniversary of Confederation. Everyone's making a pretty big deal about it! To mark the occasion, I would like to better get to know Buffy Sainte-Marie and sing along with her anti-war tune Universal Soldier.


UNIVERSAL SOLDIER
by Buffy Sainte-Marie

He's five feet two and he's six feet four
He fights with missiles and with spears
He's all of 31 and he's only 17
He's been a soldier for a thousand years

He's a Catholic, a Hindu, an athiest, a Jain,
a Buddhist and a Baptist and a Jew
and he knows he shouldn't kill
and he knows he always will
kill you for me my friend and me for you

And he's fighting for Canada,
he's fighting for France,
he's fighting for the USA,
and he's fighting for the Russians
and he's fighting for Japan,
and he thinks we'll put an end to war this way

And he's fighting for Democracy
and fighting for the Reds
He says it's for the peace of all
He's the one who must decide
who's to live and who's to die
and he never sees the writing on the walls

But without him how would Hitler have
condemned him at Dachau
Without him Caesar would have stood alone
He's the one who gives his body
as a weapon to a war
and without him all this killing can't go on

He's the universal soldier and he
really is to blame
His orders come from far away no more
They come from him, and you, and me
and brothers can't you see
this is not the way we put an end to war.

For Canada Day, let's sing along with Buffy Sainte-Marie and think about what that means.
Photo by Drpeterstockdale

The Receptionist Delivers!
Sign up for my email newsletter for a weekly digest and BONUS CONTENT!