“Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.”This is such a useful, and different, way to look at struggle, values, and outcomes! I love this as a new way of examining what we consider to be failures in our lives. If we haven't excelled in business, having a hot body, or whatever, perhaps we aren't a person who enjoys that particular struggle.
Then what? Well, then you have two choices: look at your life and what struggles you do enjoy and consider changing your priorities, or look at your life and what struggles you enjoy and consider how you can make your existing struggles similar (this may or may not be possible, but it's worth considering).
There is a third choice: don't change anything and be okay to just let this be something you half-ass throughout your entire life, seeing the same fluctuations in motivation and follow-through, with generally mediocre results.
This might sound kind of depressing, but it doesn't have to be. We can't have everything in life, and it is incredibly freeing to let go of things that just aren't right for us. Then we can focus on that thing we actually live for.
What is the work we cram in, whenever there's time, because we get such satisfaction out of that particular struggle?